Bob Dunbar. Dad. Husband. Hero. {part 2}

This morning as I drove to my 5am workout session the song “Good Good Father” came on the radio. When I got home I looked through my emails and saw my Proverbs31.org daily devotional email titled “Jesus my Peace”. We have little blessings and reminders every day of our lives but we are so busy being sad about the bad and hurtful things that we forget to notice the blessings. These 2 things were blessings to start my day.

Hopefully you read my post yesterday about my dad. I wanted to explain the whole story so you understood. I wish all of you could have known my dad. He would have bought you a meal or cup of coffee I promise you that. He was so knowledgeable about everything. You could ask him anything and if he didn’t know the answer he would Google it on his mini iPad. He took care of his family. He worked so hard. He enjoyed the beach and napping. He loved his bagel and coffee on Sunday mornings before church.

Sunday, February 1, 2015 he skipped his weekly bagel and coffee before church. He stayed home to shovel the driveway so his wife and kids could get out and go to church. It’s then that a massive heart attack took his life. He entered the gates of heaven that day and I wish I could have seen the joy on his face because he waited for that for a long time. He was a devoted Christian. He loved his Jesus. The blessings that day were happening too – I just didn’t realize them until after a couple months. He could have been driving on his way to church and had a heart attack and wrecked into someone else. All of us kids were still at home and able to be there while the tragedy unfolded. I consider those blessings because we got to be at his side as he passed from this life onto the next.

I want to share with you today some sad and some happy things. Some things that I want to remember forever about my dad. Some things that I will miss him being here on earth for.

10 things I will never forget about dad:

1.     The way he took care of and served his family before himself his whole life.

2.     The way he scrunched his forehead when he drank his hot coffee.

3.     Without a doubt he would say, “good job!” and offer to carry our bag after any sporting event we had.

4.     He had about 100 white/grey/black undershirts that he wore all the time.

5.     He always yelled, “what a yo yo!” at bad drivers haha.

6.     He always brought mom and us girls chocolate candy and a card on Valentine’s Day.

7.     The way he kneeled on the floor beside my bed the night my boyfriend broke up with me and started praying for me. He had his hand on my leg and got half way through the prayer and started crying. He loved me so much that it hurt him to see me hurt. Reminds me so much of Jesus and the love He has for us.

8.     He loved to take us to new restaurants he found while out driving around one day.

9.     His famous text to us kids was “Where at? What doing?”

10.  The way his breath would smell like mouthwash when he came to tell us goodnight when we were little.

I know there are many many other things that I miss about dad but that’s a good short list for now.!

10 things I will never forget about February 1, 2015:

1.     The load of snow we had outside.

2.     The blaring sirens and red flashing lights as the ambulance, police car, & fire truck pulled up in front of our house.

3.     The amount of people that came to our house that day to be with us, cry with us, pray with us.

4.     Dad lying on the kitchen floor with us 7 kids and mom sitting right beside him praying our last prayer and saying our last words before he was taken away from us forever.

5.     The fear in my mind of “what on earth am I going to do? I am not supposed to lose my dad at the age of 24. I still need him! I need his help!”

6.     I will never ever forget our neighbor, friend, & police officer Mr. Young performing CPR on dad and seeing him take his last few breaths as his eyes were rolling around and he struggled to breath.

7.     Seeing mom on her knees screaming at dad to stay alive, that help was on the way, that he could make it.

8.     All of us kids sitting in the living room staring at each other in disbelief, crying because we didn’t know where to go from here.

9.     Standing outside in the freezing cold calling one of dad’s best friends, Jody Martinez, and saying “Coach…he died, he didn’t make it.”

10.  Going to bed that night thinking this was all a horrible dream and that I would wake up the next day and life would be normal again.

I am glad to have these memories. Makes telling the story about my dad easier and people can understand it a little better. But nothing about this day will ever be the best day of my life. I know it was the best day of dad’s life and for that I am forever thankful!

10 things I wish dad were here for:

1.     To approve {or disapprove lol} of the guy I choose to spend life with.

2.     To help and direct me in ways that I should live my life to honor Jesus.

3.     To be here for my brothers. No boy should grow up without a father to lead them. I pray for my brothers who are 16, 18, & 20 who have no earthly father figure in their life anymore.

4.     To be here for my mom. Breaks my heart to know that she has to finish this life on her own. No husband here to support and direct her. But she is strong, she will overcome it and be with dad in heaven again someday.

5.     To be here when I buy my first house or a new car and help with all the financial situations.

6.     To be here when I (Lord willing) have grandchildren for him to hold, love, and cherish.

7.     Having him around for the holidays and major life events.

8.     To be here for me and my sisters because every girl needs that dad that promises to love her no matter how bad she messes up.

9.     To be here and shine a light for Jesus to others because this world so desperately needs it.

10.  And lastly, to walk me down the aisle as I wear a beautiful white dress, tears running down our faces, and hand me over to the man who promises to love and protect me just like my dad did.

I know time heals everything but I think as I live each day it gets harder because there are things I wish I could tell my dad. Things that he would be so proud about.

This won’t be the last post about my dad I can promise you that. I could write something new about him every day. But I will leave you with this and hope that you get a great picture of the loving husband and father that he was to us. Let your life leave a legacy like his did. I hope people talk about me when I’m gone like they have about my dad. If you live your life for Jesus I can guarantee they will.

I love all your beautiful faces. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this. Encourage someone. Tell someone you love them. And live your life to fullest because you never know when Jesus will decide to take you home to bigger and better things than this earth.

Amor, Emma

Bob Dunbar. Dad. Husband. Hero. {part 1}

Ahh, beautiful friends. Do you remember what you were doing this time last year? I do. I was just living life and having fun. I was hanging out with my best friend Britney like every other night. Not a care in the world. Life was just something I was living and not really valuing. I always heard “this life passes so quickly.” “live life to the fullest.” “you never know when it’s your last day.” ALL of these things are so true. I think they are hard to comprehend until you have a personal experience. Let me tell you about my personal experience.

{This will be a 2-part post - one tonight & another one tomorrow.}

Sitting here in tears as I type I wish I could rewind time and go back. Do you ever feel like that? I guess that’s why life is fragile, special, & fast. We never appreciate our parents – we always think they are so overprotective & out to ruin our lives. They give us rules to follow, point us in the right direction, & train us in the way they see to be correct. We never realize these things are helpful and not hurtful until we are older. We understand the world a little better and see why they were trying to protect us for the first years of our lives. They really weren’t just trying to ruin it.

February 1st will always hold a special place in my heart. It’s the beginning of the “love month”, it’s one month closer to summer lol, & it’s the month that you never know how many days it has. But, most importantly, February 1st is the day that my dad went home to the One he loved so much. The One he lived his life for. The One he so longed to meet. The One who he trusted with his whole life. Jesus Christ.

 February 1, 2015. It was a Sunday and dad was out shoveling the snow so that we could all get out of the drive way for church. It was around 10am and I was downstairs talking to mom. I went up to get in the shower. I got out and Margaret (my younger sister) came running into the bathroom yelling, “Emma! Emma! Dad just fell and he is NOT breathing!!” I ran into my room, threw on my coat and boots, and ran downstairs to find my youngest brother sitting on the couch in a daze. I ran outside and turned the corner around my mom’s truck & I will never forget what I saw. I saw my mom kneeling on the snow covered ground in a t-shirt and sweatpants, holding my dad’s head, & screaming her prayer to God. {Seeing dad lay there so helplessly, gasping for air was something that I will never forget. I never saw my dad in a situation where he was desperate for help.} Margaret ran across the street to get the police officer to see if he could help. One of my brothers was calling 911. I was calling my older sister and brother-in-law to come over to the house right now. Mr. Young was performing CPR on dad and mom was screaming, “No honey, stay with me! The ambulance is on its way!”

Dad took a couple more breaths before the ambulance arrived. They came up and wanted to bring dad in the house to get him warm. They laid him on our kitchen floor and worked on him for about an hour. We were all aimlessly walking around the house praying to God not to take our dad from us this suddenly. You could hear them shocking his heart and trying to restart it. I couldn’t help but think, “this is all a dream. There’s no way this is happening to us right now.” But no, it was real life. It was a part of life that nobody wants to go through. After the hour was up a police officer said, “can I have everyone in the front room please?” I will never, ever forget the devastating, heartbreaking, crushing words that came out of his mouth. Informing us that our dad had passed through this life & went on to heaven. “WHAT? NO! PLEASE!” From that moment on my life has never been {nor will it ever be} the same.

 Tomorrow will be one year that my dad has lived in the presence of Jesus every day. That he has rejoiced with the other angels. That he finally got what he was waiting for for so long…eternal life. Eternal life with Jesus. This past year has gone fast and slow at the same time. Dad was the glue that held our family together. He did EVERYTHING for us. He took such good care of the family he choose to have. He worked his whole life and never stopped. He never missed a sports game, piano recital, or event at school. He was one in a million.

I have learned to appreciate life and how fragile it is a little more. I think one thing that changed me was how amazing it is to think about heaven. When other people have passed you think “ahh so sad. I feel bad for their family.” But when dad passed I pictured him entering the gates of heaven and what it had to of been like for him. How real it actually is & not just something I read about in the Bible. Your life is passing you quickly even though it doesn’t seem like it. Every day is a gift and you NEVER know when your last breath will come out of you.

I pray for all of you. I pray that you know Jesus in a personal way. I do not want any of you to have eternal life in Hell. It is a real place & full of so much evil. Satan is the one who makes your life miserable, who makes you self-conscience, who destroys friendships and relationships, who wants you to burn forever and ever in his pit. Don’t go down that path. I beg of you to open your bibles, read about God, understand all the things he has done and continues to do for you, & to put your faith and trust in Him. Give him your WHOLE life & your WHOLE heart. Love Him more than anything in this world. & know that he gave His one and only Son to be crucified on a cross for YOU & ME. Just love Him people. Please.

If you don’t know Jesus but want to CONTACT ME PLEASE!! Even if I don’t know how to answer your questions I know plenty of people who do.!

I love you all.

Emma.

WELCOME!!!

 I was going to wait until next Monday to write my first blog post, but I couldn’t wait any longer! I love the style of this website that I found and wanted to begin this writing journey to share important things with all of you. I will be sharing lots of things on here whether it be my favorite bible verse {& why}, a stylish piece of clothing, a great new recipe, a fabulous hairstyle, or just something that has been on my mind. I would also LOVE if you guys interacted and told me certain things you want me to write about or stories you want me to share! I am totally open with my life, whether it be my love life, family life, work life, personal life, spiritual life…seriously ANYTHING.! Just ask and I will share :))

Now this site might not look like your normal “blogger” site, but that’s ok! I don’t want to be like everyone else. I want my site to be set apart, I want you to remember mine to be unique. I have some tabs at the top here that explain a little bit about me and some of the things I love. I also put a tab of Bible Verses…I only have my current top 5 favorites up there right now but I am always changing things around so I know I will have more tabs up there soon!

I had a blog about a year ago and then this last year has been quite crazy for me {I will be sharing stories about it all very soon here} so I am super excited to get it started back up again soon.! Thanks in advance for reading and tooootally keep in contact and message me – I would love to hear from you!

I have a lot of great, wonderful, & crazy things ahead of me in the months to come so I cannot wait to share them all with you guys! Stay tuned!!

 

Amor, Emma